November 3, 2015 12:42:51 pm
Life is all about experiences. Each life is a story, full of action and drama, comedy and tragedy. And much as we would like to believe that we have the best story to tell, the common denominator of each story is a lesson.
The ‘moral lesson’ that was written as post script, once upon a time.
But how many of us really learn anything out of our experiences?
Other than glorifying our suffering and playing the victim or the martyr or the tragedy king/queen, we rarely look beyond our egocentric self.
We carry a heavy baggage of past regrets and grudges against people who wronged us and exploited us. We wallow in self-pity and put a mill stone of beastly memories around our neck. We nurse old wounds, keep track of petty scores and grieve our losses till our dying day.
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All our experiences, good, bad and ugly happen because they are meant to happen.
The premise of these experiences lies in the law of karma. All the persons, situations and things are merely instruments in the settlement of our karmic debts.
They play out their allocated role in the interwoven events of our lives. As is the need, so is the role. And the need is universal- to smooth out our rough edges, to humble us. To know that it is not the ‘others’ who are causing us suffering, it’s we. All the drama that we go through in our present is nothing but a mirror image of all that we have done in the past. The reflection may be different, but the act (action) is the same. The emotion it brings out is the lesson. What the others make us experience is what we had made someone experience at some point in our lifetime.
Hence, the idea is to learn our lesson and move on (Chairavati Chairavati).
We on the other hand, tend to get stuck in the situation and with the people who made us go through these experiences. When we do so, there’s no evolvement. There’s only further entanglement; to evolve, we need to let go. Learn that it was not ‘them’ and accept that it was none other than us who scripted our life story.
Mahabharata, as an epic of human life portrays the drama of human existence. It suggests an approach to behaviour which universal in nature – ‘Let not anyone do to others what is contrary to the good of one’s own self’.
Because the moral of the story is that there is no ‘other’, what we do – good or bad, we do to ourselves.
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